The other day I was listening to a podcast (story of my life) and heard something that really made me rethink how I’m currently living my life.
“You can’t pour from an empty glass.” Fill yourself up first. This was the main encouragement of the speaker (Christy Wright).
As women, we live with so much guilt all of the time. If I spend time on myself, doing something I enjoy doing, I feel guilty. In fact, when I even think about doing something nice for myself, I usually just convince myself it isn’t needed.
But self care isn’t just doing something nice for yourself (though I can’t even do that most of the time.) It’s not just getting your hair done, or a pedicure, or buying a new outfit every once in a while and calling it good.
It has to be a regular thing. An everyday filling up.
As a new mom, that sounds like time that I don’t have. I work part time out of the home as a teacher and part time in home while taking care of Gemma on the days I’m home. How can I possibly find time to do things that fill me up?
Of course, being with Gemma fills me up. Seeing her laugh and smile and grow and learn fills my heart. But that’s a different kind of filling. Being a mom means pouring everything out, all the time. A whole lot of giving.
So to be able to do that kind of giving, to pour myself out, I have to be filled up first. And I’m realizing that. I’m realizing certain things fill me up. Like reading, time with God, spending time with my husband, writing, art.
So instead of pushing off any kind of self care because I don’t have time, I am trying to embrace it.
This idea of needing to be full before being able to pour yourself out- it isn’t just for moms. Everyone gives themself in some way- be it to friends, family, work. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others or you’ll most likely end up burned out and empty.
So what fills you up? Do more of it. You’ll be better for it, and so will the people you love.
Get this free print and hang it somewhere that will remind you that taking care of yourself is just as important as taking care of the people you love.